8. Having a Heart Attack Fear
I once interviewed for a job wherein the interviewer actually directly told me that the job was extremely stressful and they’d had a slew of new hires quit within a month or two. (The job was at a psychiatric hospital). I thanked her for being honest with me and said that I was not interested. As she was walking me out, she leaned in and said, “you’re doing the right thing. Our last hire quit because he said he was having palpitations all the time here and was worried he would have a heart attack.”
About 3 years later, at another company, I saw one of the women who had interviewed me. She worked in a totally different position in a totally different setting. She said that the other woman who had interviewed me, the one who gave me the warning actually DID suffer a heart attack! She survived, and she stopped working there. I was so thankful she warned me. Most interviewers wouldn’t do that.
Edit: and in thinking more about that woman, obviously SHE was very stressed and SHE was having to cover work for that position that needed to be filled. She could have easily (and understandably) gone into survival mode and thought “you know what, let’s just hire her [meaning me] and then at least I will have some relief for a month or two until this one quits too.”
But she didn’t do that, she thought of my welfare, a stranger, over her own interests. And clearly, she was suffering. I would have relocated for that job too, about 150 miles. She was aware of that–maybe that played into her decision to warn me, maybe not. Either way, she was an extraordinary person.