35. Never Got An Invite
One of my best friends was getting married to my cousin. I had known the guy way before he had met my cousin (I didn’t introduce them) I had this group of friends who I knew for many years. I myself wasn’t close to this cousin. We would get together almost every week to play video games, drink, etc. all year long the cousin would keep showing all the plans, decorations, and sh*t that excited women do.
Then one day one of my other buddies in the circle called me and asked why I wasn’t at the wedding. I never got an invite, the guys wanted me to crash it because I deserved to be there in their opinion. I saw on FB, pictures of the wedding with all my circle of friends. Then everything made sense. I just didn’t see the cues. I heard less talk about the wedding, some of the other friends were told to keep quiet, and some of them had no idea I wasn’t invited. At the same time, I was quite busy getting ready for licensing exams for school and graduation so I didn’t pay attention but I was still waiting for the invitation. I’ve been there for their firstborn, I’ve always helped them out, never asked of anything in return. You know, just being a good friend. So this hurts pretty bad.
After a couple of weeks, I confronted my buddy and he told me they really wanted to invite me but his wife’s parents were bankrolling the wedding and gave him an ultimatum, don’t invite me and he gets money for a wedding or invite me and he gets nothing. So he obviously went for the former. I get it, it’s his father-in-law and all. I was never close with my cousin or her family because they were pretty much scumbags. They would cheat family and friends, manipulate people, ask for loans, lie and try to ruin your reputation if they didn’t get their way, etc. I always kept my distance and I always came to hang out with my buddy and only tolerated my cousin. The funny thing is my buddy knew all about her family and their deceit but he stayed with her because honestly, he couldn’t get another girl and then eventually they had a kid together. So it was far too late to do anything about it. Everything just got awkward from there, so I just walked away from them and my other friends have also stopped contact with me too. In the end, I was better off without them. Just sucked because I got blindsided.