The Most Cold-Hearted Stories of Friendship Betrayals

20. Let Me Have Him

This all starts out poorly with me following my boyfriend to the same college he went to (he was a year older; still don’t regret it after all as I loved my school and everything else out those 4 years). We were a bit off again, and on again the first semester I was there (again, red flags!). My new hallmate in my dorm became my “best friend.” She and my boyfriend didn’t really like each other but it wasn’t a huge deal; just a personality clash and she didn’t like how he treated me with the on/off crap.

Our school had a winter term in January. My boyfriend lived off campus so he was there and my best friend was taking a class; I was home. My best friend was lonely and didn’t know many other people on campus for winter term so I told her to hang out with the boys in my boyfriend’s [frat]house, whom she had friendly-ish with. So they all start hanging out.

And by that, of course, I mean they start hooking up.

I get back to school and I immediately can tell things are weird with my best friend (unbeknownst to me at the time, my boyfriend has had basically our entire relationship to practice covering his tracks and is a smooth and practiced liar by this point). Within a couple of weeks, it all comes out that they’d been hooking up and their best friend actually tells me “you know how much I’ve wanted a boyfriend; if you were a good friend, you’d let me have him.” (Why I still wanted to date him at this point is beyond many many MANY people’s comprehension, including mine, but it did involve a dog that I was beyond attached to).

I do fault them both equally, and did at the time too – I don’t remember being mad at either of them as much as I was just devastated. He was apologetic from the start; she was mean and manipulative (again, not trying to say it was “the other woman’s fault” – just explaining how it all went down). It totally sucked and I felt so betrayed by both of them. Unsurprisingly, I have had a lot of trust and loyalty issues since.

21. Those “friends”

I was in the hospital having my first child. Two of my friends were going around telling anyone who would listen that my boyfriend wasn’t the father. My boyfriend never doubted me and our son looks just like a mini version of him. 15 years and 3 more kids later, the boyfriend is now my husband and those “friends” have been out of our lives for a long time now.

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22. You Imagine

I was taking a culinary class with my buddy and he walked behind me with a knife and didn’t say anything. I stepped back and got mildly stabbed in the lower back.

After 10 years of friendship, you think you know a guy…

24. Take That

In college, my best friend & I had an art class together with a guy I was hanging out with on the regular -getting to know each other to see if there was anything more there. He & I hung out, messed around, had fun, etc. Nothing formal or spoken just yet but we communicated daily. We were more than friends, but not a dedicated couple.

One day I stopped by his house after a morning class for a reason that I forget. Knocked, no answer, so I let myself in through the unlocked door (small Kansas town, nobody locks anything) so I could leave him a note (pre-cell phones/texting, at least for me).

Well her purse was on the chair by the door. Nobody answered when I called out his name. Or hers. His car was there. Her purse was there. They were there. Ugh.

I got back at her though, almost 20 years later: she friend requested me on Facebook & I denied that b*tch. Take that, Jessica.

25. Thirty Minutes

Not a friend, but a sister. I had this enormous crush on this guy. I was too shy to talk to him and just adored him from afar. Sister says “be his secret admirer” that way he can get to know you. For a month I put notes and cards in his car a few times a week. One weekend, sis and I go out and I see him. I point him out and tell her that’s the guy I’m in love with. She tells me she’s going to go talk to him about me and get us hooked up. I wait for thirty minutes, but she doesn’t return. I go inside the restaurant they are in, and turn a corner to find her making out with him. That was a devastating blow.

26. Too Cruel

A “friend” of mine told me to go kill myself just like the rest of my family” over me not going to his house. To clarify, I have one dead sister due to suicide, and two brothers who attempted, so let’s just say I’m not his friend anymore

27. The Worst Part

I had a college roommate who had been a high school best friend. He was sometimes a d*ck, particularly when he was drunk. One night we had both been drinking. I’m not exactly sure what was said, but he left the room, and apparently went and peed on my bed. He then left the room and went to a mutual friend’s dorm. I went and watched my sheets and flipped my mattress over, then poured a bunch of water all over his bed and put a nice-looking lump of peanut butter on his pillow (I couldn’t bring myself to actually piss or sh*t on his stuff). Then, I went to our friend’s place where folks were hanging out.

He had this sly look on his face when I came in and he made a comment about pissing on my bed. I told him that he was a dumbass for doing that and then leaving the dorm with his room unlocked. The look on his face flipped in a second and he ran out of there. I had locked my door, so I had a good laugh about it and brushed it off.

When I went back to my room later, I discovered that he had gotten into my room. (I later found out he had gone to an RA, told them he lived in my room and was locked out, and they unlocked my door for him and left him alone. WTF.) He peed on my bed (again), peed on my cell phone, peed on my computer, and peed in a bottle of adderal (that I had a prescription for). Hundreds of dollars of damage.

But that wasn’t the worst part. The worst part was that, while I was dealing with the fallout, he was hanging out with our mutual friends and a group of girls we were all friendly. I don’t know what he told them, but none of them would even speak to me afterwards. They wouldn’t even tell me why they weren’t speaking to me. He decided that he was just going to ignore me and our mutual friend/roommate and pretend we didn’t exist for the rest of the year. He poisoned my relationship with high school friends and new college friends, and after an evening in which he did the vilest sh*t I have ever experienced. And I couldn’t even bring myself to piss on his bed.

He has reached out to me over the 15 or so years since then. In big groups, I can be polite, but this is the only person I have ever not been able to forgive. To rub salt in the wound, he is still friends with a girl I was crushing on at the time, and who I know had been attracted to me as well. She was a part of the group that never spoke to me again, and it has to be because of a lie he told her.

Also, he continued to leverage the relationship he had developed with a relative of mine who was kind of a big deal at the university and in the town. My relative would tell us to get together and work things out, and I would say I can’t do that and ask him to cut off contact. He thought we were just in a spat or something, and kept trying to be a mediator. While continuing to help my “friend” and get him into programs at the school, and jobs afterwards.

Stopping here because this is long, but obviously, this has opened the wound for me.

28. Stay With Her

I decided to be friends with this girl that was crying. Was ok at first. Then she started to show signs of being crazy. She wouldn’t let me hang out with anyone else and when I said that I would be right back( I had to use the bathroom) she started to cry and say that I would leave her. I( being naive af) decided to stay with her. This continued until she literally punched one of my friends cause I decided to hang out with them for a day instead of her. I tried to break it off, but then she wouldn’t let me. She eventually threatened to kill me and our parents got involved, and the principal too.

30. “Real” Best Friends

When I was about 25, my (now former) best friend since 4th grade told me that during middle school, when I was painfully awkward and for sure the weird kid, she and my other former best friend would deny being my friend to everyone else. They would tell people that they only let me think we are friends because they feel sorry for me. Learning that broke my heart. I thought that we were so close, we hung out every weekend during school and even lived together after high school. Those were my only friends during those tough childhood years, and finding out that they weren’t really my friends was so sh*tty. I was picked on a lot and always took solace in having two real best friends, even if they were my only friends. And then they stayed my friends into adulthood, except now I’m not sure about that either. Couldn’t trust her after that.

31. How Far

I had some friends who lived in my street, they were literally the best friends I ever had. ( at the time) We were playing footy in the park and my friend fell over, his phone screen was smashed (old school Walkman phone this was 10 years ago) and said I should pay for it.

I was like no way man if you play footy with a phone in your pocket and it gets broken that’s your fault. Next thing you know all my friends turned against me and alienated me in the village I lived in. I got really depressed because my best friend from school who I’m still best friends with now lived 45 mins away.

Next thing I knew pizzas were being delivered and the police were being called to my house by all these restaurants. Then I started getting stones thrown at my house, my dad’s BMW got vandalised and other stupid stuff and my phone kept getting random calls from numbers I didn’t know threatening violence.

Turns out the phone was smashed before the game of football and he thought my parents would just replace it. When I said no they decided they didn’t much care for me and wanted to see how far they could get with “terrorising” my family.

It got dealt with though and I was best man at my friend’s wedding this year and he and my other best friend have each other’s back 100%

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32. Someone is Down

Had a mental breakdown in college and spent a weekend on a mandatory hold in the psych ward. When I got out I found out a close “friend” of mine was telling me all about what happened and how crazy I was. She claimed she was just concerned and was trying to get advice. It’s been almost 4 years and I haven’t spoken to her since.

Don’t kick a person while they’re down. Sheesh

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33. Electro-Party

I had my 17th birthday and invited my mates to go get a drink at a bar. Everyone accepted. But no one came. After a few hours of drinking alone and phone calls not getting picked up, I saw on Instagram that they were at an electro-party having a good time. Apparently, they were pregaming without me and spontaneously decided to go to this event and forgot about me. Everyone said sorry but it still haunts me. Didn‘t celebrate my birthday ever since

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34. Warm and Fuzzy

I did nothing but support her, cover for all the times she skipped class and made me make up excuses, lent her money and gave her support when she had an unexpected teenage pregnancy.

She called me up after a few months of completely ignoring me and we spent a morning talking about work (We work in the same industry, but different jobs, hers is more admin and mine is more technical.) I later found out that she had poached a (well-paying) client of mine, given the job to her sibling (who is in the business too), pocketed the commission and instructed our client to not pay me even though she had already signed a contract. It got nasty, and I ended up having to let it go.

Found out a few weeks after that the only reason she called me was to see if I had any idea that she had taken my client. Made me feel really warm and fuzzy inside

35. Never Got An Invite

One of my best friends was getting married to my cousin. I had known the guy way before he had met my cousin (I didn’t introduce them) I had this group of friends who I knew for many years. I myself wasn’t close to this cousin. We would get together almost every week to play video games, drink, etc. all year long the cousin would keep showing all the plans, decorations, and sh*t that excited women do.

Then one day one of my other buddies in the circle called me and asked why I wasn’t at the wedding. I never got an invite, the guys wanted me to crash it because I deserved to be there in their opinion. I saw on FB, pictures of the wedding with all my circle of friends. Then everything made sense. I just didn’t see the cues. I heard less talk about the wedding, some of the other friends were told to keep quiet, and some of them had no idea I wasn’t invited. At the same time, I was quite busy getting ready for licensing exams for school and graduation so I didn’t pay attention but I was still waiting for the invitation. I’ve been there for their firstborn, I’ve always helped them out, never asked of anything in return. You know, just being a good friend. So this hurts pretty bad.

After a couple of weeks, I confronted my buddy and he told me they really wanted to invite me but his wife’s parents were bankrolling the wedding and gave him an ultimatum, don’t invite me and he gets money for a wedding or invite me and he gets nothing. So he obviously went for the former. I get it, it’s his father-in-law and all. I was never close with my cousin or her family because they were pretty much scumbags. They would cheat family and friends, manipulate people, ask for loans, lie and try to ruin your reputation if they didn’t get their way, etc. I always kept my distance and I always came to hang out with my buddy and only tolerated my cousin. The funny thing is my buddy knew all about her family and their deceit but he stayed with her because honestly, he couldn’t get another girl and then eventually they had a kid together. So it was far too late to do anything about it. Everything just got awkward from there, so I just walked away from them and my other friends have also stopped contact with me too. In the end, I was better off without them. Just sucked because I got blindsided.

36. Like A Bird

My best friend and I get arrested together for something we were both doing. Made a promise never to rat if we get caught. We get caught. I get interviewed all I say was about my right to a lawyer. The same detective leaves the room I’m in, and walks across the other room they’re holding my friend in. I can see inside from a mirror at a weird angle outside. They’re in there for about 30 minutes, see him moving his lips nonstop. After they were done they uncuff him, make him sign a paper and he walks out the front door with all his property. They come back inside my room and tell me they’ve upgraded my charges as they have a witness now. Turns out he sang like a bird.

37. Nine of Them

Probably 30 years ago now my best friend and I worked in the design industry, mainly freelance to start off with, but we built a great reputation. We got to the point where we really started to look long and hard at setting up our own company. Over a Friday night beer, my friend announced he’d been offered a great job at one of London’s top agencies, which he took and I wished him well. Fast forward 10 years and he’d done massively well, I had done well too, but nowhere near the same cash return. The lease agreement ended on my studio, so it was time to clear out all the years of stuff I had left lying around. And I came across a portfolio, it had his name on it, the date and the company to which it was presented to. It was his job interview from years before. It contained 12 pieces of work- 9 of which were mine!

38. Made Promises

Had to move to another country for work and didn’t have time to complete the paperwork for my dog. Traded my car to my best friend to follow through with the pet transport. He got attached to the dog, understandably because the dog is f*cking awesome, and reneged on the whole deal. We haven’t spoken since. He ended up with the car and the dog. It’s been 10 years and it still breaks my heart. I made promises to that dog.

39. Yeah, Right.

I was assaulted by a guy I was seeing and called my best friend who lived out of state. Her response? “Well, you told me you really liked him. Are you sure you didn’t want it? I’m sure you were sending him some mixed signals.”

Yeah. Friendship over.

40. Not Religious

When I proposed to my now wife, one of my good friends from childhood messaged her on FB and told her I am not a “Man of God, and not religious, so I am not worth marrying and she is wasting her time on me.”

Needless to say, we’re not friends anymore.