Last-Minute Bridesman
The day before my wedding, one of my bride’s maids (bridesman? Dude in my bridal party) went AWOL. He’d been one of my closest friends for years, and he didn’t show up to the rehearsal dinner, wasn’t answering calls, anything. (I found out later he was silently battling drug addiction and was strung out; he’s clean now though and has been for a few years).
So in a last-minute scramble, one of my husband’s friends who came to town for the wedding and was the same size as my friend stepped in. I had all of the guys’ shirts and ties already since they were all going to be getting ready together anyway, and it was a summer wedding so suits weren’t being worn.
My matron of honor ghosted me the day after the wedding despite having been my best friend since we were kids (and hoo boy the abandonment issues that have come from that), and I’m not as close with my other bridesmaids as I was, but my last-minute bridesman? Probably my very best friend now. We text daily (even if it’s just exchanging memes), and he’s just an all-around great friend. So even though I didn’t know it at the time, my best friend was at my wedding party, it just wasn’t one of the ones I’d actually picked to be there.