37. When Red Flags Wave
I had an ex who used to joke I was Satan when I first woke up (which is true, I won’t deny that). Before things spiraled in that relationship I use to make that same joke about him all the time because he truly was very grumpy when he first woke up. One day he was laying on the couch with his head on my lap asleep while I watched a movie, I decided to wake him because it was getting late. I looked over at my brother who was in a chair across from the couch and said “well I guess it’s time to wake up satan”. It was very clear I was joking, you could hear it in my tone and I was smiling. This guy basically raises up like one of those vampires in old-timey movies and processes to lose it on me. Calling me names and cussing me out before I can even process he’s awake. My brother steps in and tells him to chill out and to not call me names. He gets in my brother’s face and starts cussing him out too. My mom comes in there and tells him he needs to stop so he starts cussing her out too, all while I’m crying on the couch kinda stunned and I haven’t even said a word during any of this. My mom kinda shoves him back when he got in her face, he starts threatening to call the cops on her for “harming a minor” (this all happened back when I was still in high school). She told him to get out and never come back because this wasn’t the first time he’s acted that way towards me and she was sick of seeing me cry at least every other day because he would flip out on me so much. We had been together for 2 years at this point, he had only started doing this stuff a little over 6 months before this. He basically lived at my house and was considered part of my family by everyone there but everyone had had enough. Less than a month later I broke up with him after not seeing him those few weeks only to have him drunkenly tell me one night that he had been cheating on me and demanding an open relationship on his end but I wasn’t allowed to sleep with anyone else or say no to an open relationship. Oh, he also told me he never loved me that night and cussed me out when I got upset over everything he said. To this day he hasn’t dated anyone else, tries to start things with anyone I date, and every few months makes a fake social media to try to follow me or one of my family members….we broke up years ago.