Teased and Terrified
I was 18 and at a pool party in a foreign country with my two best friends. My friends and I had a system when it came to these parties where one of us would stay sober to watch the other two and make sure that nothing bad happened to them, and that night was my night to be sober. I was sitting off to the side of the pool with everyone’s purses and watching my friends dance, watching their drinks, etc.
While there, I got the attention of a Brazilian man. He sat next to me and our conversation began innocently enough, but eventually, he ended up pinning me to my chair with one arm and asking for a kiss. I kept saying no and trying to flag down my friends, but they were too busy being drunk and having fun. He began kissing me and biting my neck while forcibly holding me down in my chair and each time I said no, he said, “Why do you resist?” I was terrified, I thought it was a matter of seconds before getting dragged off into the bushes.
A guy saw us, passed by, and then walked around again. He probably saw the terror in my eyes and waltzed up saying, “I hate to bother you, but the lady promised me a dance.” The guy scurried off and told everyone at the party I was a tease before following me around and moping the rest of the night. My friends thought (and still think) it was hilarious and to this day will tease me by saying I’m a tease. Even when I told them the story, they simply laugh and ask me questions I’ll say no to and respond with, “Why do you resist?” I’m happy that at least there was someone there to save me.
My savior was going to a UC school (I think San Diego) at the time, so if you’re reading this and recognize the situation, thank you so so much. I always scan bars and parties for girls who are in that situation with every intention of saving them.